The Oxford Dictionary defines it as "the climax of sexual excitement, characterized by intensely pleasurable feelings centred in the genitals and (in men) experienced as an accompaniment to ejaculation."
Here's a definition from peachyykleen that, by no means perfect or complete, certainly encapsulates some important points:
"The highest point of sex/sexual intercourse where the woman/girl’s eyes roll back in their head, her legs start shaking and her vagina starts beating like someone’s heart very fast. She starts moaning various times in different pitches and ways to say or scream something.
And for a man, he thrusts his dick fast and hard into a woman’s pussy, then he cums"
Notice the difference in detailed description between what the man and woman experience? This, for me, is something of critical importance, yet he Oxford Dictionary definition completely omits any mention of it.
But, not only is the orgasm experience different between men and women, so
is the art of achieving one. As peachyykleen rather facetiously but
accurately says, for men, it is very simple; he just needs to thrust his
dick into something, anything really and then, after sufficient stimulation,
he cums.
How long that may take, will vary, and, as the saying going, 'any hole is a
goal'. Vaginas, anuses, mouths and clenched hands will all do the job
nicely. Or even a pocket pussy or masturbater toy during some solo time.
For women, it is a bit more complicated, such that some even joke that the
female orgasm is a myth. The truth to that is there is no one, single way to
make every women orgasm. For instance, penetrative sexy will do it for some,
but not for others, so having a guy thrust his dick in and out, may not get
the job done for some women; they require some clitoral stimulation as well.
And then there is the legendary squirter, who will soak all and sundry as
she reaches climax.
So, while orgasms are far less of a sure thing for women, it is not all doom a gloom. At the opposite end of the spectrum, women are far more capable of cumming again and again whilst enjoying multiple orgasms. Men, on the other hand, will need a decent bit of down down to recover after they have blown their load. Sure, they will be able to go again after a bit, but they can't keeping riding those orgasms one after another.
And that leads to the obvious question of who has it best when it coms to
orgasms? I'll leave that up to you to decide. Do you prefer something that
is a sure thing with not too much effort? Or would you rather gamble on
something that is less sure but can be so much better when it actually
happens?
Of course, does anything beat a simultaneous orgasm with your sex partner?
Both of you releasing all of the built up tension at the exact same time,
you naked bodies pressed against each other. I feel it is harder to get much
closer to another human being than in that moment.
That, in my opinion anyway, is one of the reasons that orgasms are so
important. They are the height of intimacy with your lover. And, speaking
from the female perspective, the extra effort that a guy may have to go to
to get you there, conveys are caring that can be deeply appreciated.
As for guys, I suppose they have an expectation that they will orgasm. I
mean, as long as they don't get blue-balled by some sort of interruption,
they will surely get to spunk either in or on their partner. But that seems
to always make them happy, so all is good in the end.
Funnily enough, and I didn't actually realise this myself until I was doing a little research whilst writing this article, there is another reason to celebrate Global Orgasm Day.
It is actually a message of peace. You see, some say that by celebrating
orgasms at the end of the winter solstice, that surge in positive human
feeling from all of the those intense orgasms, will bring positive and
peaceful change to the Earth's energy field.
Now, as I mentioned earlier, I like science, so this sort of thing does not
do anything for me. But, I won't say no to an excuse to enjoy a Big O.
If you didn't catch it last year, you can find out a little more about the
female orgasm by reading the article I wrote for
International Female Orgasm Day.
I don't think I am quite so qualified to speak on the male orgasm, so let's
just say that if feels really fucking good. Maybe, for next year, I'll find
some willing male volunteers to help me learn more about it. For science, of
course!
And, if you are all alone and need some inspiration for how to get yourself
off today, why not consider taking on either my
Jerk Off Instruction
or
Try Not To Cum Challenge
videos. I am absolutely confident that either of them will make you cum and
give you a bloody good orgasm along the way!
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