Sex Toy Day Recap

So a quick recap of yesterday's National Sex Toy Day fun where I let anonymous community members take control of my Lovense toy...

Things got off to a slow start, for a couple of reasons. Firstly, despite posting the control link at 9:00am, it took a good 40 - 45 minutes for anyone to actually give it that all important click. A steady stream of takers then followed but I was just get edged along horribly while sitting at Snowbunny Beach chatting with Emmy.

But, as it turned out, that was entirely self-inflicted because I'd accidentally turned turned the strength of my Ferri panty-vibe down to 40% so, there you go; the second reason that things started out so slowly. Once I corrected that error and whacked it up to 100%, I was cumming in no time.

Momentum died down for a little while after that with just the occasional buzzes taking me through to lunch and then into the early afternoon. I suspect that the connection between my phone and Ferri was being a bit unreliable, which was probably contributing towards the relative lacking of buzzing during that period.

After a quickly reset when I retuned from lunch, things then picked up dramatically around 13:00, perhaps confirming my suspicions of another hardware let down, although not a self-inflicted one this time. Anyway, a constant stream of nice, intense vibes soon got me off for the second time of the day.

Orgasm #3 followed pretty quickly, maybe around 20 minutes later and was by far the most intense so far. It also equalled my tally from last year with around an hour and 15 minutes left before my link disabled itself, so I was very hopeful of going at least one better. Especially given the momentum that we were carrying from a couple of quick orgasms in succession.

Sadly, that was the last time I would cum for the day. Things quickly went quiet after orgasm #3 and the remaining sessions I did get, were too spaced out and intermittent to bring me back to the edge again.

Regardless, it was still a fun way to take part in one of the days that I like to promote each year. I certainly get as lot more satisfaction from actively getting involved in days from my calendar instead of just dropping a tweet and maybe an informative blog piece about them.

So bring on next year's celebration and, hopefully, that elusive 4th orgasm!

Oh, and thank you to those kind souls that helped make me cum. A nice orgasm or three is always appreicated.

Let's celebrate National Sex Toy Day together!

I had so much fun letting members anonymously control my toys last year for National Sex Toy Day that I've decided to re-run the fun again this year.

So, once again, I have a selection of my wearable toys charged and ready to go at 9:00 GMT sharp. And I'll keep going until either 15:00 GMT or when the batteries in my Ferri, Lush 3 and Dolce are all dead; whichever happens first.

Why have I selected those three toys in particular, you may ask? Well, that's the sexy bit. While you lot all get to vibe me, I'll be going about my daily routine so it is only practical for me to use ones that don't require me to hold them. With those three, I can slip them into place and then leave you all to do your thing.

Now, let's quickly go over the rules before you get down to the all important link to click...

When you click it, assuming no one else is actively controlling my toy, you'll be able to take control of it for 5 minutes and drive me wild with some awesome vibes. 

However, if you click the link and your browser says that it is unavailable, that just means that someone is already actively controlling my toy. In that case, simply wait a few minutes and then try again to see if it has become available again.

And to prevent one person from constantly re-clicking the link again as soon as they've finished their 5 minutes, there will be a short timeout of a random length before the link becomes active again. 

That said, I don't want to limit anyone to just one go, so do feel free to come back in a little bit for another round. I just want to avoid one or two people hogging it for the whole time and denying others from having some fun with me as well. 

So, with the ground rules established, here's that all important link you'll need to click!

CLICK TO MAKE ME CUM!

I will be giving updates over on Twitter throughout the day, so be sure to follow me there. In particular, I'll keep you updated on when I cum or desperately need someone to get me over the edge; something I should have done last year when I was getting edged horribly during the afternoon when I had to endue large gaps between control session. I want to beat my total of 3 orgasms from then so let's all work together to make it happen!

Alternatively, if you don't fancy trying to make me cum but would rather give me a different sort of treat, you can help me complete my Lovense toy selection by heading over to my Lovense wishlist and gifting one to me. I think the lube gift on my wishlist is the most realistic and would be greatly appreciated. You can never have too much lube!

Or you can treat yourself to a new toy by heading over to the Lovense store. If you need any recommendations, then you can check out all of my Lovense reviews before making your choice (sorry, reviews for ladies' toys only)

A Halloween Horror Show

It was an absolute horror show at this year's 3DX Halloween party. And I'm not talking about some themed fun for the season of scares. In fact, it would be a miracle if the organisers of these events could finally get their heads around the fact that guests would rather hear something that is thematically appropriate rather than the same old generic EDM shit that we hear at every single fucking party.

I've honestly lost count of how often I've had to raise this same criticism about the music at these events but its the same problem over and over again. Where is the industrial or sook rock, which would perfectly reflect the spooky theme?!

At the end of the day, these same problems will continue because the is no actual interest in providing a good experience for guests. It's all about numbers and that's it. Which brings me neatly to what really made it such a miserable night out for me... 

With each and every one of these events it becomes more and more about squeezing as many bodies in as possible. I literally spent 30 mins trying to get in before I eventually had enough and gave up. I only managed to get in when I returned for the last hour, by which time the crowd had thinned from just shy of 600 people to around 200.

Honestly, I feel like I should give up on these parties because there is zero real care but into them. They have become little more than an ego-stroking exercise, which is a bitter shame. I just feel like I should keep attending them for the sake of being able to write these reviews of them. But if I'm made to feel excluded because they are so over-crowded that I can't even get in, why the fuck should I continue to bother. 

Wish I hadn't spent so much time actually trying to come up with a costume, even if I did just end up digging out one that I put together for National Anime Day a few years ago...

The Evolution of Pink October

Every October, the world turns pink. From ribbons to landmarks illuminated in rose-coloured lights, Breast Cancer Awareness Month has become one of the most recognizable health campaigns in the world. But the way we mark this month has changed significantly since its inception. What began as a grassroots movement in the early 1980s has transformed into a global effort that combines awareness, education, fundraising, advocacy, and, more recently, conversations about prevention, diversity, and inclusivity.

The Origins of Breast Cancer Awareness Month

Breast Cancer Awareness Month (BCAM) was established in 1985 through a partnership between the American Cancer Society and a pharmaceutical division of Imperial Chemical Industries (now part of AstraZeneca). The initial goal was simple: promote regular mammograms as the most effective weapon in the fight against breast cancer. The campaign grew quickly, providing much-needed visibility to a disease that had previously been shrouded in silence.

The Pink Ribbon Era

The early 1990s saw the birth of the iconic pink ribbon, introduced by the Susan G. Komen Foundation and later popularized by Estée Lauder. The pink ribbon became a powerful and universal symbol, creating solidarity and a sense of shared purpose. Suddenly, corporations, sports teams, and communities around the world had a visual shorthand to show support.

While the pink ribbon helped normalise discussions about breast cancer, it also ushered in the era of “pink marketing,” where products were branded in pink to signal support - sometimes without transparent connections to actual fundraising. This led to greater awareness, but also growing debates about the commercialisation of the cause.

Expanding the Conversation

By the 2000s, Breast Cancer Awareness Month was no longer just about mammograms or ribbons - it was about empowering people with knowledge. Campaigns began focusing more on:

• Early detection through screening and self-exams

• Funding research for new treatments

• Supporting patients and survivors emotionally as well as medically

Non-profit organisations, advocacy groups, and survivors began challenging oversimplified messaging, asking for more attention on prevention strategies, metastatic breast cancer, and the realities of treatment side effects.

A Shift Toward Inclusivity and Advocacy

More recently, Breast Cancer Awareness Month has broadened its scope. Conversations now acknowledge:

• Men can also develop breast cancer, even though awareness campaigns have traditionally been female-centred.

• Racial disparities in diagnosis and survival rates, with Black women being disproportionately affected by later-stage diagnoses and lower survival rates.

• Genetic risk awareness, including BRCA mutations, which highlight the importance of family history and genetic counselling.

• Mental health support, recognizing the emotional toll of living with or after cancer.

Advocacy has also grown stronger. Today, many campaigns push for policy changes around healthcare access, equitable treatment, and research funding, not just awareness.

The Role of Digital Platforms

Social media has further transformed BCAM, giving survivors and advocates a direct platform to share stories, raise funds, and build community. Campaigns now harness hashtags, virtual fundraisers, and viral challenges to reach global audiences instantly.

Looking Ahead

Breast Cancer Awareness Month has come a long way from its early focus on mammograms and ribbons. While pink remains the dominant colour of the month, the message is more nuanced than ever: awareness alone isn’t enough - we need action, equity, research, and compassion.

As we move forward, the challenge will be to keep awareness campaigns meaningful, transparent, and inclusive while ensuring that the momentum built each October leads to lasting change for everyone affected by breast cancer.

More Than Virtue Signalling

Every October, pink ribbons, charity runs, and awareness campaigns appear across social media, workplaces, and communities. For some, this surge of visibility feels hollow - little more than virtue signalling, a trend that lets people feel good without making a real difference. But dismissing Breast Cancer Awareness Month as pointless overlooks the very real and practical reasons it exists.

Here’s why this month matters, even beyond the slogans and pink ribbons.

1. Awareness is About Action, Not Just Aesthetics

Yes, pink has become a symbol. But symbols spark conversations. Without awareness campaigns, far fewer people would learn about the risks of breast cancer, the importance of early detection, or the challenges survivors face. Those conversations can, and do, lead to real outcomes: a friend booking a screening, a family member recognizing symptoms early, or a workplace introducing better health benefits.

2. It Highlights Gaps in Healthcare and Support

One of the lesser-seen benefits of awareness campaigns is the attention they bring to inequities. Not everyone has the same access to screening or treatment, and raising awareness forces those issues into public conversation. When companies and governments feel pressure to respond, policies and resources follow. That’s not empty signalling. It’s change driven by visibility.

3. It’s Not Just About Money

Critics often point to fundraising fatigue, asking, Where does all the money go? It’s a fair question, and scepticism is healthy. But awareness month isn’t just about raising funds. It’s about education, support, and visibility for patients, survivors, and caregivers. Many campaigns emphasise free resources, not financial donations. Things like mobile screening units, workplace seminars, and mental health hotlines.

4. Survivors and Patients Feel Seen

Imagine going through a breast cancer diagnosis and feeling invisible, as though nobody around you understands the depth of what you’re experiencing. Awareness month may not solve every problem, but for many patients and survivors, it is a moment of recognition. The world takes notice of their reality, validates their struggle, and offers solidarity. To dismiss that as “virtue signalling” is to dismiss the human need for community during life’s hardest battles.

5. Awareness Has Already Saved Lives

The biggest counterargument to “this is a waste of time” is simple: lives have been saved because of awareness campaigns. When people are reminded, sometimes repeatedly, of the importance of early detection, they act. Early detection dramatically improves survival rates. That is a measurable, life-saving impact.

6. It Creates Space for Conversations Beyond Cancer

Ironically, many of the criticisms of awareness campaigns (like commercialisation and performative gestures) are themselves worth talking about. Breast Cancer Awareness Month sparks these debates, and in doing so, it challenges charities, businesses, and communities to do better. That’s not a weakness - it’s progress.

7. Normalising Breast Cancer Conversations Opens Discussion For All Cancers

Talking openly about breast cancer helps to break long-standing stigmas around illness and mortality. When discussions about breast cancer become part of everyday conversation, it becomes easier to talk about other cancers too - prostate, testicular, lung, bowel, and beyond. This normalisation reduces fear, increases education, and encourages earlier detection across the board. Awareness of one type of cancer can create ripple effects that benefit everyone.

So, Is It Just Virtue Signalling?

If Breast Cancer Awareness Month was only about wearing pink, posting hashtags, and moving on, then yes, it would be shallow. But the reality is more complex. Behind the colour and the slogans are millions of people whose lives are touched by breast cancer. Awareness month is not perfect, but it is far from pointless.

It saves lives through education, pushes for equity in healthcare, offers solidarity to patients, and keeps pressure on institutions to act. That’s more than signalling; it’s meaningful impact, even if it doesn’t always grab headlines.